Resources for Parents & Families

Parents and families can experience many feelings as their loved ones head off to college. These milestones may bring up pride and joy but it may also bring up worry. Some parents may be concerned that their child is not ready for the challenges ahead. Others may be concerned about the potential impact of the increased stress. 

We would like to reassure you that there are a number of resources on campus available for your students. The Counseling Center is one place that can help provide the mental health support your student may need. 

As a parent you may notice changes in your student and perhaps are not sure if these are concerning signs of distress. We’ve included some things to look out for that may be an indication your student is in need of some assistance:

  • Not attending class
  • Disproportionate responses to grades
  • Hostility/anger outbursts
  • Being more withdrawn
  • Easily irritated
  • Pacing, jitteriness
  • Noticeable marks (e.g., cuts, bruises)
  • Visible changes in weight
  • Deterioration of physical appearance
  • Being a recent victim of violence or other traumatic event
  • Significant sadness or sense of hopelessness 

If you notice any of the above changes or anything else that does not feel right, you may want to suggest to your student that they visit us at the Counseling Center. Your student can give us a call (973-353-5805) or stop in. 

The Counseling Center offers many different services including:

  • Individual and couples treatment
  • Alcohol and Other Drug Assistance Program
  • Psychiatric medication management
  • Referrals to off-campus treatment
  • Workshops/consultation 

We are committed and mandated to maintain confidentiality of all of our students. Outside of instances of imminent risk, we protect the privacy of our students and work hard to make the Counseling Center as a safe place for our students. While these regulations are in the best interest of your student it can be challenging for parents. You may want to ask specific information about your student only to be advised that we cannot reveal any information, including their attendance. This does not mean however we do not value the role of family in our student’s lives and treatment. Parents can consult with us in general matters or to share concerns and ask questions about how to help their child in the event that they are noticing peculiar behavior.  More specific communication would require a release of information signed by your student. 

Here are a few resources that may be helpful for parents of college-aged children:

Transition Year: Emotional Health and Your College Student

Transition to College: Separation and Change for Parents and Students

When Your Kid Goes to College; A Parent's Survival Guide Paperback

Fall Semester-A Time For Parents To Revisit Discussions About College Drinking

Parent's Corner: Underage Drinking

When Big Brother or Sister Goes to College

Helping Your College Student With Sibling Relationships