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How Can I Get Involved?

Everyone in the Rutgers community can foster an environment that supports VPVA’s mission to prevent violence and increase awareness. We can all support those involved in sexual assault cases by educating ourselves, understanding our resources, and believing survivors when they come forward. You can also support VPVA by simply spreading the word about programming, events, attending/co-sponsoring events, sharing our social media messages, and educating yourself on violence prevention and victim assistance.

This April, we will launch a Campus Climate Assessment called WeSpeak, which allows students to share their views regarding sexual assault resources on the RUN campus. You may also view the results of the 2016 Campus Climate Assessment.

To participate in the 2018 Campus Climate Survey as a RU-N student, Click Here.

How Can I Show My Support?

Survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, or stalking/harassment often hesitate to come forward for fear of judgment, or because of a lack of information about resources. If a friend, loved one, significant other, student or family member share their story with you, the most important things to remember are:

  • Believe them.
  • Remind them it was not their fault.
  • Respond with compassion and non-judgment.
  • Ask them how you can best help/support them.
  • Offer resources to them.
  • Respect their privacy and their decisions.
  • Don’t pressure them to do what you think they “should” do.

Survivors in abusive relationships may leave their abusive partners only to return to them several times. Self-blame, fear and denial may keep them from continuously seeking support, and they may become isolated and withdrawn for a while before reaching out for support again. Help them. Ask how you can help them, remain non-judgmental and encourage them when they do feel ready to accept support.

For tips on how to offer support, or what to say to a survivor, check these out: How To Talk to a Survivor.